2 min read AVAILABLE ON PODCAST Spotify iTunes Anchor.fm/emelle If you're like me and have to work with people, at home or in the work place, then you're looking for ways to improve interactions and relationships. I read Michael Bungay Stanier's bestseller, The...
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Graveside Gratitude, Giving Thanks in November
AVAILABLE ON PODCAST iTunes Spotify Anchor.fm I learned more from two friends in death than I had learned from them in life. I had not known them well and perhaps that is why, but they were men I met whose lives touched mine, in a fashion,...
Poetry Dinner Night – A Quarantine Scene
Does she or doesn’t she? Do you recognize this from the 1956 ad campaign? Does it elicit unsavory thoughts? This Hall-of-Fame advertising slogan was used for Clairol’s Hair Color and within six years seventy percent of women were dying their hair. Maybe you remember...
Are We Killing the Fat Man? The Corona Trolley Dilemma
AVAILABLE ON PODCAST SPOTIFY ITUNES ANCHOR.FM THE TROLLEY PROBLEM The Trolley thought experiment, first put forth by the philosopher Philippa Foot, pits two schools of moral thought against each other: deontological ethics and utilitarianism. In simple words, the...
For the Class of 2020 During the Pandemic, a Poem and a Mother’s Wish
AVAILABLE ON PODCAST Spotify Anchor.fm iTunes Today's letter is for high school seniors, for my son and his classmates, for my friends’ children, for Andrew and for Allie and for Brian, and for my friends with college seniors, Jane and Emma. I want to tell you a bit...
The Three Gifts – So what have you learned in 50 years?
AVAILABLE ON PODCAST iTunes Spotify Anchor.fm ** A child's note, three gifts from a parent, and Tolstoy's famous story ** I stumbled upon a note recently from my ten-year-old son, written in print with a pencil, the scrawl tending slightly downward. To...
On Presidents, Politics and War, and Poetry
AVAILABLE ON PODCAST iTunes Spotify Anchor.fm You ever have that moment when something you’ve believed for some time begins to shift and slip, leaving you a bit off-balance? I had that happen in a foundational way. Flipping to the date of a page-a-day calendar, I came...
TikTok Connect the Dots – the United States and China
AVAILABLE on PODCAST Anchor.fm Spotify iTunes My friend’s daughter Sue left to attend the University of Rochester this fall and had shared a story. The school website lists international students as twenty percent of the undergraduate population but Sue said...
On Poetry and Mondegreens and Teenagers
Listen to PODCAST iTunes Spotify I had a teacher in eighth grade named Miss Michaelson. She was a bit long in the tooth and had a jagged helmet of black hair. A big boned woman, she wore dresses which wrapped about her like robes on a Greek statue, the overall...
College Application Season – “What the rankings don’t tell you”
Location, tuition, rankings, size, program offerings. "What's the right college for me?" is the question of the season and it's become so intense, students don't tell each other where they apply. These factors loom large on the landscape of choices today, but two key...
National Punctuation Day – the Vulgar Pronoun – Read THIS
I was looking up the definition of the demonstrative pronoun this last week, and got a lesson in modern American slang. Gestures help with understanding just what this means in certain circles, but if you give it some thought, you will realize that the mean and the...
Two Young Fish, Two Guys in a Bar, & David Foster Wallace – The Real Value of a Real Education
Story 1: There are these two young fish swimming along and they happen to meet an older fish swimming the other way, who nods at them and says "Morning, boys. How's the water?" And the two young fish swim on for a bit, and then eventually one of them looks over at the...
Why Scout Finch Hates School – the Best Novel of the Century and Progressive Education
"Scout” Finch’s first day in school exposes the pretentious and often hollow ambitions behind progressive education in the 1930s and today. The beloved characters from Harper Lee’s To Kill a Mockingbird provide timeless insight on public education. Scout’s father...
History Teacher Provides a Lesson – But Not One She Intended
Some unlucky souls have already returned to school and we will keep them in our thoughts. Meanwhile, stretch out on the lounger, kick off your shoes, and crack open a cold one while we consider our luckier path, no school till AFTER Labor Day. Let's contemplate the...
When Lightning Strikes, Are You Ready?
We were all shaken out of bed this morning at 5:25. I'm pretty sure the house, or very nearby, was hit by lightning. I smelled electrical smoke. Spent the last 2 hours walking around inspecting but could not see the strike. Cable, Internet and phone still out. No AC...
A Stone Pig and Cold Feet – Common Core in New York
He wasn't tall but he was fit and wore the beard of a man in charge of his own schedule. His shop opened last year and he doubled its inventory since, adding furniture like a stool with inlaid walnuts, another with legs of horn, and collectibles like the Adirondack...
Walking on Water – Faith & the Adirondack Loon
“I was artfully created by God!!!” screamed a young man, the words loud on the morning lake and louder still than the bell rung before to begin the daily ritual. We had paddled across to see the camp and explore the far shore, the water still and dark from its evening...
Postcard from New Orleans – a First-Timer’s Sketch
Jamal pulled his Black Chevy Impala along the corner of Toulouse and Chartres where we flanked the bay window of a jewelry store, hiding from what amounted to a spit of rain, a gift from above. The heat dropped into the 80s and the rain tamped down the smell of human...
An Appeal to the “Supreme Judge of the World” – July 4, 1776
Just 1300 words long, the Declaration of Independence is worth reading this weekend. You'll learn something about the United States, about its history, and about yourself. If you have children, include them. For the last few years, our family has read this founding...
Gifts From Croatia
Our Croatian driver Nico said, "What three things does the U.S. President use from our country every day?" I didn't know when I first arrived in Split a few weeks ago, but I've returned with answers for curious readers. Nico smiled in the rear view mirror. "The...
Millennials & the Prom – PROMposals in the Digital Age
For their fifth birthday they rented a bouncy gym, for their tenth a pirate ship, and for confirmation the country club with DJ, dance, and photography. The millennials (and their parents) do nothing by halves. Asking a date to prom is a rite of passage into adulthood...
Common Core SBAC Testing – “Stupid Brain Abuse and Cruelty” – an 11 Year Old’s Civil Disobedience
My sixth grade daughter has been pleading with me to "opt-out" of the Common Core testing she's endured this past week, a trial battery of testing. She's been testing for seven school days now and that includes a combination of tests: CAT for Computer Adaptive Test,...
Close Reading & the Power of Words – Edward Gorey – Artist and Writer
If you want to write, study English. If you want to write well, study literature. Francine Prose shares this about writing. One essential and telling difference between learning from a style manual and learning from literature is that any how-to book will, almost by...
Disappointment on Ellis Island Field Trip, Shattan’s Day Off
"The field trip was a huge disappointment. It took us four hours of driving, two ferry rides, and we had half an hour in the museum," my son said. "Did a guide or a ranger give you a tour?" I asked. "No. Our teacher told us to do three things. We had to sketch...
Liberty for Sale: Philadelphia and the Downside of Capitalism
April 1 Philadelphia played a significant role in our country's history and I'm just back from my second visit in recent months. But be warned, you won't like what I have to share. Good stuff first. The City of Brotherly Love was once our nation's capital and...
The Meaning of Human Existence – Edward O. Wilson – Ant Scientist Has Answers
This book is an interesting source for answers. I guessed the author would be a philosopher or a novelist, maybe a rabbi or priest. But he is none of those. He is a myrmecologist, or scientist specializing in the study of ants. Edward Osborne Wilson won the Pulitzer...
Taking a Teen to NYC
Freaky Friday is here: it's the first day of spring and there's a snow storm in Connecticut. We're just back from a blustery cold visit to NYC. My teen daughter and I took our first trip, three days and two nights, just us. We watched An American in...
“Who says Pi are squared? Pi are round!” March 14, 2015, the Ultimate Pi Day
It's a once in a lifetime, OK once in a 100 years anyway, so don't miss it! Today is the ultimate Pi Day! 3-14-15 9:26:53 If you missed it this morning, no worries because you have another chance this evening! This date, hour, minute, and second represents the...
Withdrawal From the Orgy: Rise of the Asexual and the Demisexual
American society has become so sexualized, young people are seeking refuge in labels that make them feel OK to pull out of the orgy. Withdrawal by a new name, they call themselves asexual and demisexual. Think of the asexual or "ace" as the atheist of the religion of...
“If I agreed with you, we’d both be wrong.” This is a paraprosdokian. Huh?
In the spirit of National Grammar Day and the power of language to go beyond its machinery and rules, let's explore strange new words, seek out new life in literary figures of speech, and boldly go where great authors have gone before. (R.I.P. Leonard Nimoy, Spock of...
March 4: There’s a National Grammar Day? So, three pronouns walk into a bar . . .
"National Grammar Day is Wednesday," I told my eleven year old daughter. She looked up and said with deadpan delivery, "Every day is grammar day." I winced. I chuckled. She's poking fun at ME, but she's doing more than poking; she's taking a jab at me. She's the...
Piano and Poetry: a Primer on How to Critique Music
Here are my late night texts to my husband on how to critique piano music. Can you hear Caroline playing? Listen for clean articulation of each note, even tho it's fast A musician must be heard and given feedback. It's stunted when she doesn't get anything. But wait...
Excellent Sheep: the Miseducation of the American Elite by William Deresiewicz, an Elitist Who Knows
His observations and analysis from inside the Ivy League are compelling, but the professor's solution is as elitist as his career path. William Deresiewicz argues that today's elite educational institutions produce excellent hoop-jumpers, teacher pleasers, and masters...
High… How are you? Cannabis in Colorado
Rocky Mountain High has new meaning after our ski vacation last week in Aspen. I visited a pot shop. The front half was empty save for an ATM machine. It's a cash business because banks won't support the industry. The back half of The Green Dragon Cannabis Co looked...
The Super Bowl, My Son, & Home Economics
EXTRA! EXTRA! Read all about it: my son learned how to clean a toilet this week. In earnest. We're making real HEAD way. We had friends over to watch the superbowl and needed to clean house. Our housecleaner of six years retired and woe-to-my-children, they must...
A Year of Reading
If you could see a summary of the food you digested in 2014, you might find some surprises: 17 pounds of chocolate, 47 of bottles of wine, 5.7 servings of red meat a week, 1.3 fast food visits per week, the venial sin in this quarter is fried chicken or Five...
Eavesdropping on Greenwich Teens: Are They Going to Pot?
Greenwich is one of the country's wealthiest towns. The other day, I drove there, parked the car on the main avenue, and walked 30 meters to a shop, when I overheard a conversation behind me. "Don't you want to hear my story?" a girl said. "Jackson was so worried. ...
Where Are the Tough Teachers? Mediocre Music & Why We Need Mr. K
I drove to my son's winter concert listening to Yo-Yo Ma's holiday album with musicians Chris Botti on trumpet and Natalie MacMaster on fiddle. I wanted to get into the holiday spirit, but perhaps I set myself up for disappointment. The school's preparatory ensemble...
A Passion for Puzzling
There are puzzles and then there are puzzles. If you like jigsaw puzzles, you're familiar with the kitschy cardboard variety depicting Disney characters, classic art, nature, or animals. The pieces often consist of two outward tabs and two inward blanks and are apt...
Toni Morrison’s Beloved: Should Books Get a Rating Like Movies?
Parents get upset about the book Beloved and here's why. In the first chapter, Toni Morrison wrote about the five men who were "so sick with the absence of women they had taken to calves." Go ahead. Read it again; I had too. My reading group picked this as part of...
Common Core in Connecticut: Bureaucracy Beats Democracy
A panel of speakers discussed the Common Core this week at the New Canaan Library with a room full of concerned citizens. Connecticut adopted verbatim the new standards in 2010 as a means to opt out of the No Child Left Behind law. Many of us knew little about it....
UCLA today: Students take ‘diversity’ and skip history
The faculty of University of California Los Angeles (UCLA) College of Letters and Sciences voted Friday a close 332 to 303, with 24 blank ballots, in a move toward forcing students to take a diversity course as part of their undergraduate requirements. (Michelle Moons...
Why Students Don’t Write Well – the PSAT and English Today
Many children struggle to write well today. Here's the number one problem they face. First let's consider their writing skills. See how you fare on these three questions from a full length PSAT or Prelimary Scholastic Aptitude Test, the precursor to the SAT. Choice...
Two Monks and a Woman – A Zen Story not a Bar Joke
One day, two monks set out on a journey to a temple in a distant village. Along the way, they came to a shallow and fast moving river where a young woman waited, full of despair for fear of falling in. The monks looked at each other because the rules of their order...
Why Colleges Are Failing Our Students – Harvard Gets a “D” and Brown Gets an “F”
If you were wondering why college graduates are struggling to find jobs, this explains part of the problem. Many colleges don't require core subjects like U.S. government/history, literature, and mathematics. Instead, they have replaced the general education...
Parent’s Tao Te Ching – William Martin – Changed My Attitude Towards ‘Parenting’
I have given many copies of this book to friends, especially new parents. When I first received this, I read it in starts but it began to creep into my consciousness. After reading so many books on children, I learned to take solace in these simple...
High School Sports: Vulgarity vs. Virtue
Exhausted and losing, the Viking girls huddled on the court and referring to their opponents, team captain Idalis Figueroa said, “That’s not who we are. At King we believe in the virtues: kindness, integrity, respect, perseverance. This is how we play.” (This may...
Cut the Flab, a Writing Primer
Simple steps to improve bloated writing In a digital world, many people only know you through your writing. At work and in your personal life, social media extends our connections across the globe. So it’s more important than ever to write well. But who has time...
Banned Books Week, Soft Bans & Selective Shelving in Schools
People made over 18,000 attempts to remove books from schools and libraries since 1990, according to the American Library Association (ALA article link). Here are the Top Ten Most Frequently Challenged Books (scroll to bottom). My family read six of them, so we have...
School Guidance, Common Core & the Orwellian State
Our Middle School principal sent guidance on the topic of town safety: students are discouraged from walking into town after school. He shares the numbers and concludes: Anyway you “do the math”, you can calculate that a large number of unsupervised middle school aged...
Did You Get Your Latex-Free Gloves? Back-to-school Supplies
My son has a rotating eight day schedule annotated in as many colors. A suggestion is noted in bold on the school's shopping list: "Please try to have students color-coordinate their class supplies with their class colors (ex. Yellow Binder for Yellow Math class)."...
The Woodcutter’s Tale – a Back-to-School Parable
Once upon a time, there lived a woodcutter who went into the forest to chop down wood. He felled 18 trees that day and brought them to the timber merchant. "You are the best woodcutter around," the merchant said and gave him his pay. The second day, the woodcutter...
The Age of Insolence & Politically Correct Nursery Rhymes
The stair and attic lights were on when I went upstairs. I whispered goodnight to my daughter, then reminded her she left the lights on. "David and Laura left them on," she said. I walked to David's room and told him to turn off the lights. "Why me?" he said. "I...
Einstein on Classic Literature
Somebody who reads only newspapers and at best books of contemporary authors looks to me like an extremely near-sighted person who scorns eyeglasses. He is completely dependent on the prejudices and fashions of his times, since he never gets to see or hear anything...
Handwriting, a Foundation for Communication and Thought
During a year of homeschooling, my children practiced penmanship. The positive impact on everything from legibility to understanding and reinforcement was impressive. A year back in public school and my son's handwriting has regressed. And he no longer writes in...
How Do We Teach Creativity? Odyssey of the Mind
In the Age of Information with energy challenges and dwindling resources, we need more and more creative, innovative solutions to the world's problems. The existing education system does not teach this well. So how do we teach creativity today? I'm just back from...
Yale Commencement – Awards for Everyone
This year's Yale University Commencement consisted of two acts, a dozen Honorary Degrees followed by Awards for Everyone. Act one occurred on the Old Campus at 10:30 AM and act two moved to the residential colleges at noon for awards and diplomas. Secretary of State...
Read Austen, Train Your Brain
Mention Austen to literature lovers and you get one of two reactions: love her or loathe her. Mark Twain was perhaps her harshest critic. He said, “Every time I read ‘Pride and Prejudice’ I want to dig her up and beat her over the skull with her own shin-bone.” I...
Politically Correct Fractions – 5th Grade Math Today
My daughter was frustrated doing her 5th grade math homework. She had to add fractions with different denominators. She was confused for several days on this topic so I asked how her teacher showed her to solve them. She couldn’t say. I asked if she used Least Common...
Literary Analysis or Amateur Psychology?
A friend shared her son’s 7th grade English assignment. This worksheet makes my stomach churn. It entirely misses the point of this often referenced, much misunderstood passage. In it, Tom Sawyer must white wash the fence but instead, convinced his peers to do it...
How to Homeschool & Travel
We’re back on the bus. Or at least David and Laura are anyway, and I’m quite thankful for it. I should be clear about my gratitude here, which has more to do with reclaiming my time back than it has to do with the school part of it. I’ve given some thought to last...